"You are the fairy tale told by your ancestors."
— Toba Beta
In times past we lived in smaller, more intimate communities. We came to know one another through knowing the family. We spent our lives around people we had grown up with, and alongside the sons, daughters, cousins and friends of those people. There were fewer secrets, greater openness, less suspicion and more trust. There was context.
Today people just land in our lives out of nowhere. They have no context, no background, no history. All we know is what we see, so we are forced to make snap judgments based on skin tone, religious dress, accent and our own stereotypes and generalisations. In the first instance it's our only way of discerning, of figuring out who to trust. And then, rather than talking with someone, or even prior to meeting them we look them up on social media, looking for clues.
Of course, because we make judgements based on appearance and social media profile we know that others do the same, so we all spend a lot of our time making our outsides look presentable and creating online personas to attract other people. Yet in all our online profiles rarely is ancestry mentioned. Context is still lacking. Apart from perhaps mentioning a city of birth there is no I come from section, nowhere to tell our story of childhood, of parents, siblings, grandparents, of flight, immigration, of the things lost and the hurt suffered, of great achievements and strange adventures.
This workshop offers a space for all of that, a space to talk about our backgrounds, to tell our family stories, to share intimacy, to create moments of awe and wonder as we look upon one another with new light. Going forward it will remind us to start with wonder rather than judgment when we meet new people.
This is an online workshop, open to anyone, anywhere. Indeed, the more geographically and culturally diverse the group, the more interesting the workshop.
Starting with conversation, in pairs and then groups, and moving into penmanship and artistry, we'll create prose and poetry pieces, drawings, collages and stories to share with one another, and perhaps take away from the workshop to share with our friends, colleagues and families.
You may like to have photographs or other artefacts on hand to help you to tell your story. Mostly though, just spend some time thinking about your history, and your parents' history, and their parents, going back as far as you like. If your history is vague or lost, embrace that too, and consider non-ancestral influences.
Who should attend?
This workshop is open to anyone and everyone. No special skills are needed, just a willingness to be open and vulnerable, and a desire to learn about yourself and listen to the stories of others.
As I consider this workshop to meet the needs of a wide-ranging group of people, not just business folk, so three categories are available: standard, philanthropist and subsidised. Select the one that best suits your pocket. If the prices offered are still outside your affordability range, please let me know and we can agree on a fair price to suit your circumstances. Cost should never be a barrier to learning.
Facilitator: Tobias Mayer
I have been facilitating groups for almost thirty years, and have spent over fourteen years consulting in the corporate world. With two marriages, one divorce, four children, multiple encounters with drug addicts and alcoholics, and many years working in the probation, youth work and refugee support fields I feel well seasoned to offer workshops on the human condition. Today I study Theology and Human Givens psychotherapy, adding to my understanding of individuals, groups and relationships.
Date & Time
Monday 5th July
4.00-6.30 pm (UK)
Includes a mid-session break.
CostStandard: £50 + vat
LocationZoom. The access link will be sent on registration.
If you'd like to host this workshop, or offer it privately within your organisation please get in touch. Pricing is flexible according to organisational status and ability to pay.
Image: Portrait of the children of Zvi Friedlander, Šiauliai, 1913. Photograph by M. Rubinstein. (RG 126 Family History and Genealogy)
Content: Tobias Mayer, 2016-2021
Page published: 09/02/2020
Last updated: 29/05/2021